Many of us are afraid to live out loud. That’s what I’ve learned.
Much like the Marianne Williamson quote, we fool ourselves into thinking we are inadequate when our real fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It’s time to walk in that.
From the time I was a little girl I was always pretty much an extrovert. I’ve come to know my introverted side as an adult, however back in the day, I was always on. I learned very early that my outgoing personality would either draw people to me or repel them like a can of Raid. At first it wasn’t easy. There were times when I wanted to dull my shine to make other people comfortable, which is why I have all types of praise breaks for Marianne Williamson. But what I learned as I got older was that most often what people thought of me had nothing to do with me and everything to do with them.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same.
-Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love
Who we are can be intimidating to people who are still trying to figure it out or that are insecure or dealing with whatever issues. But so often we internalize that and find ourselves shrinking in the shadows of people’s thoughts. Confidence is scary to the unconfident. Being steadfast is foreign to the indecisive. Believing can be taunting to non-believers. These are the things we have to remember.
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But I’m tired. Tired of wondering what people will think and how things will look and how I will be perceived. We have work to do grounded in purpose and we do not have the time to be so caught up in what living our lives out loud will mean to others. I’m thankful for the experience of being “too much” because it taught me to be okay with myself. I’ve learned to be comfortable with the thought that you will either like me or you won’t. HA! So it doesn’t really impede on me being me.
A lot of us are constantly whispering and shrinking and I want to encourage you that you are doing a disservice to this world when you do that. God made you in His image and that light is going to shine no matter how hard you try to cover it up. Our confidence is really essential to our sanity in a world that is repeatedly trying to tell us what and who we are not. So it’s our responsibility to take control of our own narratives and our own dreams and be loud about it.
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There have been times when I have been afraid to be honest with myself about the things that I really want out of life. They seem too big and too foreign based on the people around me and what they have done and the neighborhood I’m from and so on. But those dreams don’t go away. They’re big and they’re scary and I am coming for them. Writing them down, rehearsing them, envisioning them and I know that some day they will come to pass. Our dreams should scare us right?
I’ve found so much music lately that has really become the soundtrack to my life. Between Coloring Book and Reverie Drive, I feel empowered that all of this wondering and insecurity and work will eventually pan out some day. SO I wanted to share a feel good song with you from the Reverie Drive EP, “Whisper.” This is a supergroup of producers and a singer/songwriter and all the music is full of exploration. You’ll love it and you’ll feel like you won’t want to live small anymore.
I’m done with that life. I am who I am. And I hope that your discover who you are as well and be loud about it.
Tell me, what have you been whispering about that you’re ready to scream out loud?