What Really Matters

The new year is closing in. The months have seemed to fly by and there have been great highs and great lows in this year of 2016.

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As we are planning, writing out the goals, and plotting world domination, I thought it the perfect time to just assess what truly matters. It may be different for every person, but I’ll take you through a few of the things that I have found most important in life this year.

Remembering not to define yourself by what you do.

It’s most obvious in our social media profile bios what we value the most. We see the bylines, the services, but there are few that also include some of the more important roles like mother, wife, sister, world-changer, lover of people, whatever it may be. As I venture into the new year, I want to make sure that I am kicking the idea of defining myself by the things that I am able to acquire and always remembering that I am valid because God said so, that’s it. 

CLICK TO TWEET /// I am valid because God said so, that's it. 

Holding on to what you know is truth.

As a Christian, it’s easy to feel outcasted by friends and family because you are like legit chasing after God and his ways. But we were made to stand out. So it’s important to me to hold on to my truth because it won’t always align with others. You have to be steadfast in what you believe because there will always be naysayers trying to prove you otherwise. 

Creating the life you want where you are.

So many people sell the dream. And that’s not what I’m saying here. I am saying that I don’t have the home I want yet or the dream job, but in the meantime, I am going spruce the place I do have up and go harder than ever to ensure that eventually I can work for myself full time. There is no “When you get there,” because honestly, if you’re doing it right, you won’t even notice once you’re there. 

Don’t let anyone sell you the dream.

I started working from home about 2 years ago for my company and let me tell you something that entrepreneurs don’t often mention about working from home? It’s lonely as hell! HAHA! It also creates these weird fears in you and I literally have to psych myself up to be around a lot of people. Like it legit gives me a little anxiety and I AM AN EXTROVERTED PERSON. Just know that there’s always a complete story that you may not be told. 

No matter how much you achieve it has no merit if you are not a good person.

I don’t care what car you drive or how many millions you have in the bank. We have to be good to one another, we have to care for people and we have to be seeking God’s goodness at all costs. None of this means anything if I can’t come home and be good to my husband and to my family which is really my first ministry. 

CLICK TO TWEET /// I don't care what car you drive or how many millions you have in the bank, we have to be good to one another.

My freedom is my responsibility.

In many ways in my life I have found myself saying that I felt stuck. But you know what? Being stuck is a decision. You are not a tree, move. Period. If you want to change things, you have to change them. It won’t be easy, you may be deathly afraid but if you want your freedom, you will have to fight for it and that’s exactly what I intend to do. 

CLICK TO TWEET /// Being stuck is a decision

I’m all for goal-setting, I am all for expanding our visions and our goals and dreams. But I really want you to take some quiet time to yourself before the end of this year to say, “what have I learned?” And what is MOST important to ME? This may take a purge of some social media for a time too. Because Lord knows that convolutes what we think is important. But I am telling you that this is really going to be the key to success and more simply your joy in 2017. 

It’s going to be hard. But you need to write it down and you need to be able to refer to it time and time again because the wind is going to come and try to blow you. It’s going to try to tell you that 20 other things are more important. It is going to try to tell you that you are not successful because you don’t have this amount, this bag, or this amount of followers. But it reminds me of the quote from Audre Lorde. 

“If I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies of me and eaten alive.” 

Define yourself for yourself in 2017 and be sure to keep in mind what matters most. 

I’d love to hear some of your dreams, goals, and intentions for the new year. Don’t be a stranger and let’s chat about them in the comments below.