self care

Aligning Every Version of Yourself

Aligning Every Version of Yourself

“There is nothing worse than a fake Christian.” - Joyce Meyer. 

Now there are not a lot of us that would actually feel like Joyce was talking to us. But when I heard her say this listening to her sermon from the Code Orange Revival at Elevation Church, it stuck. It made me wonder, is every version of myself aligning with that of God?

Overcoming the Fear of Doing Nothing

Overcoming the Fear of Doing Nothing

I said no to an engagement and gave no explanation or reason behind why I didn’t want to go and it felt good. I wouldn’t say that I am a people pleaser, but I am definitely a “people close to me pleaser.” I like to feel like I’m there for close family and friends and even if I am dreading something with all my being, I will go anyway just to receive my “Good Family Member” gold star. But I am telling you that it felt so amazing deciding to choose me first. I am getting more and more comfortable with the word, no or better yet and more politely no thank you.

Self-Care in or Out of a Relationship

Self-Care in or Out of a Relationship

Self-care has been this huge buzzword lately. But like anything that gains social buzz, it’s important to define what it actually means and sift through all the hi-jacked gurus that reason they are an expert on the subject. I am not now nor have I ever claimed to be an expert on anything really, but in our last Dear Love Brunch where we discussed Settling vs. Compromise, it seemed to be an underlying topic that needed to be brought to the forefront.

WRITE | Who You Are Outside of What You Do

WRITE | Who You Are Outside of What You Do

We don’t even think about it. We walk into events, meetings, corporate settings and when asked who we are, we reply with “I am so and so and I am the [insert job title] at [insert company.]” Sometimes people are even impressed by our response and if you are anything like me they think somehow your job is a lot more glamorous than it really it is.  But lately, I am a lot more interested in who people are and what they were put on this Earth to do.

See my job title holds no real weight in what honestly really matters to me. It’s a job and it has great parts, not so great parts, and I will be happiest when I can walk away from it with great skills, professional experience and truly begin walking in purpose full time. Really my job is a needy mistress, distracting me from the real task at hand.

WRITE | How to Not Go Crazy

WRITE | How to Not Go Crazy

It’s funny, one day I was complaining to my BF about people always putting me in charge of things. I was just like “Why is it always me?”

He looked at me and laughed and said because you put yourself in that position.  He said I am a “get it done” type no matter what and most people will see that and then put me in charge of stuff. He said that it’s hard for me to play the background especially if I think I can do something better or faster.

And so just like with anything he tells me about myself, I denied, denied, denied. Haha! I feel like I always fight his thoughts at first and then God gives me these a-ha moments where I always have to come back and say, “You were right.” So talking to my mom one day, I was explaining how my best friend is supposed to be planning a little girl’s night get together. She hates entertaining, but I was doing my best to let her take the reign. As I was talking to my mom I said, “Oh I will probably just have it since she’s dragging her feet,” and no short after that I gasped and held my chest. This was the big one. This was the revelation that I am always trying to take charge of something and I realized that my best friend exploits that in me because she was trying to get me to do it the whole time! She’s so smart!