For this podcast I decided to talk to the love of my life. That's right, Mr. Thomas ladies and gents! The intro of "Love on Purpose" starts with an important quote from this guy. He was the first person to really introduce me to the concept that love is a choice. After 5 years and change of dating and 4 months (we both had it wrong in the podcast) of marriage, I thought he may have some wisdom to share with you guys!
My husband is a recovering drug addict. I say, “recovering” because although he doesn’t use drugs anymore, he’s still learning how to not behave like an addict. You may not know what I mean by that and maybe it sounds harsh to you, but I promise I don’t mean anything bad by it. My husband spent years creating a habit of disregarding empathy for personal protection. He’s better at taking care of his own needs than he is other people. It’s just the way it is.
I never wanted a wedding. I didn’t grow up dreaming of the white dress and the Ken doll figure in a tux waiting for me at the altar. I mean my parents are married, but they eloped, so maybe the lack of wedding pictures to look through at family gatherings added to it. It all just seemed silly to me. The dresses were ugly and women got so crazy that I didn’t event understand why the men wanted to marry them after their behavior. As I got older, I was in weddings, I even worked at the Villanova Conference Center at tons of weddings and still it did nothing for me.