We are emotional beings. Often times our relationships are where they fly at an all-time high. And if you have been in the love game any amount of time, you know that a bunch of emotions swirling between two people can create the perfect storm. Sometimes causing irreversible damage. So we should try by all means to avoid the scenarios that we can’t take back.
It’s funny, many times right before I am about to begin a post like this I find myself lacking in the love department. But that’s the thing about love, there are surely highs and lows and in-betweens and all those things. So at the time that I wrote down this topic down, I am sure that I had a very clear idea of where it was headed and now I have no idea where we may go. This is real life blogging right here! Ha!
Let me say that I have indeed been out of the “dating” game for a minute at this point in my life. But I believe no matter what season we are in, whether we’re currently dealing with situationships, Netflix and Chilling or fear of commitment, I think the phrase my momma always used to say reigns true. “You teach people how to treat you.” Even when the dating world may seem completely upside down, it remains that we are able to set the standard for what we will and will not accept when it comes to relationships.
One thing I love about the fall is all the great television that comes back from hiatus. Ha! Being Mary Jane being one of them which kicked off the season premiere on Tuesday, Oct. 20. As usual, the show spawns so many thoughts and opinions when it comes to love and relationships. In a scene with Mary Jane and her brother, he tells her “You deserve more than the words I love you.” This got me thinking sadly about the idea of when love is not enough.
“Maybe I’m the person who’s almost the guardian angel to this person, to be there when they’re not strong enough, when they’re not understanding the world …”
-Rihanna as told in Vanity Fair Magazine
Funny enough, this is a sentiment that many people have probably often felt even if they were never ready to admit it or didn’t know how to express it. As much as we should be giving in our relationships and helping each other to grow, believing that you can save someone is a completely different ballgame.
One thing you will always hear me say on this blog is that relationships are not easy. I repeat, relationships are not easy! But at the end of the day, most of us are looking for that type of companionship in life and so sometimes it takes giving various dating situations a go. Some that aren’t so great and some that could possibly lead to finding the love of your life. What I hate to see, is when a relationship goes south and a person becomes bitter.
“I help women get out of their own way, so great guys like Albert Brennamen have a fighting chance. “ Yes that is a line from Hitch and yes I was watching it recently. It’s a darn good movie. But when I heard that line, I shouted all types of amens! I have found that the more I talk to various women, the more I realize that they are indeed in their own way.
People come together various different ways in relationships. But the couples that seem to be the most successful are those that say “We were friends first.” And sure maybe it wasn’t strictly platonic, you may have always had a thing for that person, but there was some point when nothing was too heavy and you got to know one another and genuinely enjoyed each other’s company. Friendship as the foundation to any relationship tends to be a solid base to help couples withstand all that may come their way as they venture into the realm of dating.