Successful relationships take two, willing participants, period. This is what I know. I know that no matter how much I am learning about how to be a better woman, my husband also needs to be learning what it takes to be a better man. So often, these relationships are one-sided, and it’s time we stop fooling ourselves into thinking someone is as invested in us as we are in them, when they’ve made it clear that they are not. Have you ever heard the saying “trying to fit a square peg in a round hole?” That’s what it sounds like when I hear people talk about relationships that clearly they are the only one in.
It’s no secret that the beginning of relationships are pure bliss. Sometimes you don’t even want to go out, you just want to be in the presence of that person. Everything they do and say is “so cute,” you talk on the phone for hours, and your friends and family grow weary that every conversation with you includes reference to that person. This time period varies. Some people are in this clouded state for a couple weeks, others a few months or maybe even the first year or so. But eventually, real life sinks in and we have to figure out how to survive after the butterflies.