There has been a war going on between me and my feelings for some time. For as long as I can remember I have always been a person who feels. Whether it’s balling my eyes out at Titanic when we already know the ending or being hard on myself for something that I messed up, I feel. I’m feeling all the time.
We all know that communication is essential to a relationship that we want to flourish. But as much as we know that, why is it that so many of us still suck at it? The reality is, many of us, when we are in relationships feel like our counterparts should just know. But how in the world can someone know what you are thinking or how you are feeling if they are not you? It sounds ridiculous when you read it, I know. But the fact remains that whether we recognize it or not, this is how many of us operate in our relationships.
The biggest challenge to overcome in many romantic relationships is the fact that for the most part men and women think really differently. This genetic disposition to view things from very different perspectives showcases just how important effective communication is. And I don’t know about you, but I still struggle in this area.
I tend to think that things should be evident or that I don’t have to say what’s wrong, he should know. Well very quickly I learned that’s stupid. Ha! Sorry to be so harsh but it really is. No one on this planet is a mind reader – I mean unless you believe Professor X is real, but for the most part – the only way the rest of us are going to understand another person’s feelings is if we are told in a way that we can digest.