You never know where opportunities may come from in this creative stratosphere. Earlier this year I had the opportunity to begin writing a few freelance pieces online for Essence.com. It was a completely unexpected opportunity that I was truly grateful for. I mean, my mom was so proud. Ha! Since then, I have been asked multiple times from other writers how they might be able to write for Essence. But my experience was different. An editor there reached out to me from the work that I was already doing on my blog. So, I’m never really sure how to instruct people to go about pitching. But one day recently, I purchased a copy of Essence magazine, (the one with Our Pres and First Lady) and imagine my surprise when I opened it up and one of the first things I saw was a list of all of the print and online editors!
I was browsing through the pages of my website to see what updates I wanted to make this month. It seems like from week to week I gain more clarity about streamlining my online presence. It’s like you start out just wanting to write. Then you see that blogging is about more than writing. Then you realize if you ever want to write full-time, you need to diversify your hustle and before you know it, you’re slightly off the beaten path. But that’s a little beside the point.
I said no to an engagement and gave no explanation or reason behind why I didn’t want to go and it felt good. I wouldn’t say that I am a people pleaser, but I am definitely a “people close to me pleaser.” I like to feel like I’m there for close family and friends and even if I am dreading something with all my being, I will go anyway just to receive my “Good Family Member” gold star. But I am telling you that it felt so amazing deciding to choose me first. I am getting more and more comfortable with the word, no or better yet and more politely no thank you.
It took some time, but I have finally come to the conclusion that my work flow tends to be a bit dysfunctional! I am all over the place! At some point in this lovely journey of building my blog and brand, I developed the inability to focus on one thing for too long! I am the master multi-tasker and everything that I have been reading or listening to lately talks about how much of a disservice it is to try to do multiple things at once and so ….. I’m on a mission to get ORGANIZED and focused. If you’re with me, I will share a few tips below about the steps that I am taking!
I started writing a very eloquent introduction to this post but I realized that I was probably not really doing the topic justice as currently I’m struggling like a mug to have it all! So originally, I was saying that I’ve gotten into many debates about this. We see it play out often in narratives like Being Mary Jane and Scandal where women seemingly have it all professionally but can’t seem to find a lasting relationship to save their lives. Or you’re the mom in Love & Basketball who gave up all her hopes and dreams of being a caterer to take care of the family. And it leaves many women asking, is it possible to have it all?
I didn’t realize I worked like I had a team until multiple people told me they thought I had one. I’m far from a one man band though, because the support of my friends and family means everything to the successes I’ve achieved so far. But in a formal capacity, I haven’t had any team outside of an intern since a month ago but I am certainly seeing the importance of having one.