The importance of saying no has been a recurring topic of conversation in many circles. Exercising our right to say no is without a doubt one of the highest forms of self-care. But on the other end of that, you have someone like Shonda Rhimes who wrote an amazing book called “Year of Yes,” where seemingly everything changed the moment she decided to stop saying no to everything. So where exactly should our efforts lie? Well, I believe it’s all about learning how to evaluate your yes.
I remember seeing engagement rings up and down my timeline before my husband proposed. I would text my best friend with snippy comments about how it had to stop and she would tell me about the 5 other engagements that popped up on her timeline as well. We’d both been in long-term relationships, hers longer than mine, with men who definitely expressed that they wanted to get married. So clearly they were waiting for the right things. Clearly starting with the cash that it takes to buy a ring.
“Life comes at your fast,” couldn’t be a more accurate adage in this day and time. Every time I hear it, I nod profusely in agreement that sometimes life changes in an instant and if you’re not on somewhat of a solid foundation it will literally knock you right over. Someone was let go in my company and the proverbial ish all got really real.
First thing’s first, let me say that business is HARD! Yes there are so many people yelling about the entrepreneur life, but it’s NO easy task. I think we first need to know and understand that. It also takes a lot of money to make money. Okay, now that’s out the way. I want to share a little about preparing for growth.
No matter what these sales emails say when you pop open your inbox, you may not be doing it wrong. Realize that a part of sales tactic is to try to make you think you need the product and therefore it’s a no brainer to purchase it. Where indeed at times you may need the additional help, it’s important to decipher sales tactics from what’s actually taking place here. Too often in comparison to others or through push sells emails, no matter what we have going on we’ll think there’s something we’re doing wrong.
Okay, so you’ve attended how many webinars this year? And how many courses have your purchased? And how many Twitter chats have you followed? If you’re anything like me, probably a lot. I love to learn and I love information and I love to learn more about how to refine and grow my writing and my business. BUT … I know you knew it was coming, but, at the end of the day, no one is going to do the work for you.
I used to be afraid to ask my parents anything if I thought the answer would be no. See I had gotten to know them over some time and I pretty much had a good idea of what would fly and what wouldn’t. What I didn’t realize was that I was setting myself up in life to be fearful to ask anything if I thought the answer might be no. Instead of saving myself from the rejection, I was really just limiting my possibilities. Sometimes the habits that we have develop way before we know what we are doing or how they could be detrimental to our success. We have not because we ask not and it’s taken me some time to realize that.