I never set out to write about love. If you know my story, you know that my first book, Dear Love, was only about love based on notes I was writing on Instagram. There are enough relationship experts right? I mean some of them even give relationship advice without successful relationships. But I digress. It all started because of how much I was learning about God’s love for me. That was the starting point and it started to ooze into every part of how I related to others as well.
Love is not ownership. The moment that we try to control other people with our love, we lose. I always reference God as our greatest example of love. He is love to me. But he never tries to manipulate us with it. He gives it to us freely and repeatedly even in the moments when we are failing to be lovable. The freedom in that provides us with a deep love of God that can’t even be fathomed. The fact that he loves us in spite of ourselves. We need to understand the importance of loving one another without the need to control and without judgment.
Relationships are not easy. I don’t think anyone is confused about that fact.
But one of the things that I know for certain that helps to make certain things a little easier is having God at the center of my relationship. Recently my significant other and I joked about the fact that we’re not sure we would have made it this far without Him.
But in all actuality, I don’t even see how relationships work without God. Not that I haven’t been in those relationships, but hey … they clearly didn’t work out. Lol. Nonetheless, one of the main reasons that I think it’s super helpful is because both people become accountable to God and not one another. So I am constantly thinking, “Are my actions acceptable in God’s sight?” And when I take on that attitude, I know that if I am pleasing God, I would hope to also be pleasing my significant other and vice versa.