A Step Away From a Do-Nothing B*

We’re all a step away from being a do nothing b**&%, it seems. I remember watching part of Beyoncé’s set at Made in America where she had a video with top UFC fighter, Ronda Rousey’s voiceover playing over top of it.

Step Away From a Do Nothing B

“A kind of chick that just tries to be pretty and be taken care of by somebody else. That’s why I think it’s hilarious when people say my body looks masculine or something like that. Listen, just because my body was developed for a purpose other than f—ing millionaires, doesn’t mean it’s masculine. I think it’s femininely bada** as f— because there’s not a single muscle in my body that isn’t for a purpose. Because I’m not a do-nothing b****.”

The crowd cheered of course, but I remember that not sitting well with me at all. One thing I have a low tolerance for is women bullying other women. See in her statement, she is coming up against the people that may have in fact bullied her verbally about her body and in-turn calling them out of their names as well. While I am all about believing in yourself I never thought it should be at the expense of others.

It was troubling to me. While I completely respect the fact that Ronda Rousey is at the top of her field, I was looking for her redeemable qualities and couldn’t quite find them. Well, until months later when Rousey found herself in the fight of her life with Holly Holm. Rousey experienced her very first loss, by knockout and it was grueling. It became sensationalized across the internet, which is a terribly cruel place and I felt so bad for her.

After a bit of silence to recuperate, Rousey finally broke her silence and appeared on the Ellen Show. And I saw it. I saw this girl’s humanity as tears came to her eyes speaking about how she wanted to end her life but then decided that she had something live for. No it wasn’t about seeing someone broken, because many times people want to fling you off your pedestal when you are great at something, it was a reminder that we are all one step away from being a do nothing b****.

Excellence is something that we should all be striving for. And confidence and courage are necessary in any dream that you are trying to achieve. But whether you are great or not, life always has this way of showing us just how important it is to have humility right alongside of our confidence. When you are that cold, and that callous about others, you will crash that much harder when things don’t quite go your way.


But none of us are immune to the trials of this life. I remember my Pastor talking about the homeless and how many of us frown our noses up at them. But if most of us missed a paycheck, we don’t know where we would be. The judgment passed on the women that may use their looks to get things or work their way up, is assuming that you know anything about their story and why they may be the way they are. And many of us have made those judgments. I’ll raise my hand. But what could happen in our lives today that may change our mentality and the way that we go about things?

I am thankful that I have gifts and talents that I believe will take me very far in life and make room for me to be among great people. But I also know that in an instant things can change. I have to be aware of that and I have to respect that about life. So it’s always with perspective that I walk in excellence. It’s inward and not based on propping myself above the next person. This was an awakening experience for Rousey I’m sure and we can all use it as a lesson for our own lives as well.

It was also a reminder to remember who you are outside of what you do. Rousey mentioned thinking “what was she here for without being the greatest fighter?” That is all about knowing your value in Christ. Knowing that because you were created, you are valid. You were valid before you ever picked up a microphone or a pen, or learned how to do a choke hold.


And then a new quote from Ronda came out of that interview that I wholeheartedly believe in and think should be plastered all over the screen instead of calling out other women:

I still believe that I am undefeated because being defeated is a choice. I choose to always be undefeated.
— Ronda Rousey

That my friend, is something that I can stick by. We don’t have to be defeated even in the midst of the biggest adversities in our lives. We get to choose our perspective. Though it may not have been pretty, I hope that this may have been something that makes Ronda Rousey an even better fighter when she steps in the ring. We all deserve grace and redemption and I’m rooting for her and for every little girl that looks up to her. That’s what’s important. More important than propping ourselves up at the expense of someone else.

What are your thoughts? Have you ever experienced a completely humbling moment in your life? Let’s talk about it in the comments below.