So many people ask whether millennials “believe in love.” As a generation that has been liberated in more ways than one, the dating pool seems shallow and complicated with the additions of social media and online dating and so we wonder, “Does this generation still hold love in high regard?” Well, very quickly I would say yes because when presented with examples like Jay Z and Beyonce or Michelle and Barack Obama, we all swoon with affectionate tweets and Instagram timelines full of their pictures so where is the disconnect?
For this podcast I decided to talk to the love of my life. That's right, Mr. Thomas ladies and gents! The intro of "Love on Purpose" starts with an important quote from this guy. He was the first person to really introduce me to the concept that love is a choice. After 5 years and change of dating and 4 months (we both had it wrong in the podcast) of marriage, I thought he may have some wisdom to share with you guys!
Reyel was referred to me by a member of my mastermind group and I am so grateful for the connection. I love that Reyel has turned her own experience into the power to help others. Through her Twitter account, she talks all about self-care as it pertains to love, highlighting that when we do not take care of ourselves, we are no good to others. I so enjoyed our candid conversation communication and killing self-pride. Reyel dropped numerous gems along the way so be sure to take some notes!
I love the website Mater Mea which talks all about the intersection of career and motherhood. I first stumbled upon it after seeing an interview with writer and maker, Alex Elle. I was amazed by beautiful images that showcased women of color in this sensitive way that you just don’t see too often. So I reached out to Anthonia Akitunde, the founder, initially thinking she was a mother herself! HA! To talk all about familial love ... Though she is not yet a mom, she is engaged and about to embark on the beautiful journey of marriage with her fiance and we got the opportunity to talk all about her pending nuptials and her experience in getting to a healthier definition of love in her own life.
Kevin Carr is the author of “What I’ve Learned About Dating.” Not only a writer but a charismatic speaker who has traveled across the country workshopping with students and spreading his message about #datingresponsibly. Kevin has a no fluff approach and gives great perspective about the dating scene, setting expectations and being real with yourself about what you want and what you are attracting. He’s honest, insightful and full of gems that will help you navigate the dating and love scene.
First and foremost, I feel it’s important to note here that I have known Amanda since 5th grade and it’s amazing to see someone grow from that space. Okay cool so …. Amanda has an amazing story. Over two years ago she packed up her family of 5 and decided to move to LA to take the chase of her dreams to the next level. After making amazing moves and landing a position on the hot show Love and Hip Hop Hollywood doing makeup, she realized just how unfulfilled she was. In pursuit of a new relationship with God, she decided to move back to her hometown to pursue a brand new perspective on beauty, God, and self-care.
I never set out to write about love. If you know my story, you know that my first book, Dear Love, was only about love based on notes I was writing on Instagram. There are enough relationship experts right? I mean some of them even give relationship advice without successful relationships. But I digress. It all started because of how much I was learning about God’s love for me. That was the starting point and it started to ooze into every part of how I related to others as well.
Love is not ownership. The moment that we try to control other people with our love, we lose. I always reference God as our greatest example of love. He is love to me. But he never tries to manipulate us with it. He gives it to us freely and repeatedly even in the moments when we are failing to be lovable. The freedom in that provides us with a deep love of God that can’t even be fathomed. The fact that he loves us in spite of ourselves. We need to understand the importance of loving one another without the need to control and without judgment.