Growing into Grace is a life elevating series on growth, grace, and womanhood. Grace has been the most pivotal part of my coming of age. Daily I give thanks for grace and constantly I am working on giving myself and others the same grace that God gives me. In this series, join me as eight amazing women give their insight on the 5 Things They Know for Sure and their take on “Grace, not perfection,” and what that means in their lives currently. Feel free to comment below and share their insights on social media!
The Chief Creative Officer of Creative Smart Girl, Nia helps women navigate the space of chasing their dreams while doing it with the utmost style and grace. A fashion blogger, content creator and event curator, Nia has taken all of her lessons in business and molded them into a dynamic online space that is Creative Smart Girl and a poppin’ Twitter chat under the same moniker. Her work aids both the full time entrepreneur and the side hustler that is working to make it all make sense while balancing a 9 to 5. Her story is one of perseverance and finding your divine purpose even through the curveballs like sometimes throws our way.
Nia Phillip, Creative Smart Girl
Grace over perfection is a reminder to me to love myself the way God loves me. So often we think faith is about perfection but it’s really about God’s grace. There is nothing I could do that separates me from the love of God. If God loves me that much who am I not to love myself just as much. Loving myself enough to forgive myself and to allow God’s grace to cover me and be gentle with myself is the freedom so many long for. So often our mistakes manifest themselves as bundles of shame, weighing us down to the point of physical ailments. I’ve refused to embrace that tradition. God’s grace is my savior and my grace for myself is my power.
CLICK TO TWEET /// If God loves me that much, who am I not to love myself just as much. -Nia Phillip
Perfection used to be my goal. All throughout my teen years I was actually taught I was achieving that goal. But, as the modern adage goes, life comes at you fast. I had to quickly learn that if I was not only going to survive but thrive I had to learn to be kind to myself. When I fail or disappoint myself I remember God’s grace, I’m kind to myself, I learn the lessons, and I keep pushing towards the person I want to become. Life is a journey and I must allow grace to walk with me on that journey to ease the pain of the wrong turns.
5 Things I Know for Sure
God is real. I know God is real because I know love is real. Experiencing my mother’s love is something only of God. Witnessing a mother holding her newborn baby or a husband comforting a dying wife. That kind of love that’s born of sacrifice and pain is only something of a purposeful God. How can I know that kind of love exists without knowing God? Witnessing this kind of love always removes me from physical self and connects me with my spiritual self. It’s the reason we all cry in those moments and it’s the reason those moments feel bigger than ourselves.
Neither success nor failure is final. We are conditioned to believe that we arrive at destination success or destination failure. In reality life’s journey is littered with success and failure. I am in control of who I am when I succeed and when I fail. I use to be so afraid to fail. So afraid to show that I was anything short of perfect but in time I’ve learned that that failure doesn’t define me. It’s the character I develop on my journey through success and failure that truly defines who I am.
You have to do the work. Everything I can possibly dream of is on the other side of really hard work. As a black woman, I face some unique disadvantages but I’m privileged to be able-bodied, to be of a sound mind, to have the love and support of family and friends, and a community of women to help me when I get lost. I don’t overlook these things or take them for granted. The very least I can do is give my very best effort to creating a life I’m truly proud of. I strongly believe that if I do the work I can live the life of my dreams. I’ve also learned over time that it doesn’t matter how small or inconsequential I think a goal is it still requires work. Everything from waking up earlier to improving my skin is WORK.
Time is a finite resource. I don’t have, as much time as I think I do, so I need to make the best out of the time that I do have. Once my time is gone it’s gone forever. I can always make more money, but I can’t make more time. I’ve wasted so much time in my life and although I’m extremely content with my life I wish I knew just how valuable my time was. I would have saved myself some heartache by just eliminating time wasters.
I am more than enough. I deserve all that I have and all that is coming to me. It’s easy for me to play the comparison game or for me to question whether I deserve to have a seat in certain rooms. I constantly remind myself that I am enough. I have enough for the wild ideas in my head and I have everything I need to make things happen at the moment. Being enough is also another rejection of perfection. I don’t have to be perfect to be enough, I just have to love and believe in myself enough.
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