Growing into Grace is a life elevating series on growth, grace, and womanhood. Grace has been the most pivotal part of my coming of age. Daily I give thanks for grace and constantly I am working on giving myself and others the same grace that God gives me. In this series, join me as eight amazing women give their insight on the 5 Things They Know for Sure and their take on “Grace, not perfection,” and what that means in their lives currently. Feel free to comment below and share their insights on social media!
Gabrielle Hickmon is splitting her time between total world domination as a UPenn Grad student and writing for a generation that thrives off authenticity and forward thinking. She is the co-founder of The Reign XY which creates community and encouragement for millennial women of color. Created by Gabrielle and college friend, Toi, the site explores their journey from the college experience into the professional realm. Full of style, grace, and a love for politics, it’s easy to see Gabrielle as an emerging leader in the millennial generation that will affect change in more ways than one on both a local and global scale.
Gabrielle Hickmon, The Reign XY
I’ve never been good at forgiving myself. Never been great at trusting the Universe. And I never feel like I can sustain any sort of peace. I’m constantly plagued with questions like, am I doing enough? Have I done enough? Will any of this amount to anything? How am I going to get from here to there? And where is there anyway? Maybe it’s because I’m 22 and live in a world that makes me feel like I’m doing this time in my life wrong, that I’m messing up my 20s. So, grace over perfection for me, means doing my best to let go and let God, doing the work of meeting Her halfway, and remembering that I don’t have to have it all figured out right now. I don’t have to have it figured out and I don’t have to share or compare my hopes and plans with anyone else. My path is mine and as long as I do the work of honoring it as I walk it, I know I will be more than just fine. Grace over perfection is doing the work of breaking myself off a piece of mind, a piece I can use, along with giving myself the gift of some grace, to carry me through.
5 Things I Know for Sure
I know that comparison is the thief of not only my joy, but my voice. Artists are sensitive people - whether we want to admit it or not. I know I am. And, when I stop to think about moments where my soul has gotten almost imperceptibly off track, almost being the key word there, it was because I was spending too much time taking in other people - their voices, opinions, canvases - and not enough time taking myself in. Constantly consuming other perspectives makes it very hard to hear your own.
CLICK TO TWEET /// Constantly consuming other perspectives makes it very hard to hear your own. -Gabrielle Hickmon
I know that the steps are the good part. Patience is a virtue, even if it has never been my virtue per say. In work, in life, and in love, the steps create the foundation on which we stand. They can be uncomfortable, cumbersome and extremely anti-climatic. But, there is a time, place, and season, for everything under the Sun. And, the steps are ultimately what gets us to each new destination. The steps are the journey and for me, the lessons I learn along the way, are always more valuable than the experience of reaching the mountaintop.
The steps are the mountaintop and the view, well, it’s amazing. If we could just learn to pay attention and grow through, instead of merely going through.
I know I need to “Start from the content.” Start from the content and work your way out. Start from within and work your way out. Start from the heart and work your way out. Start from that part of your brain that comes up with ideas you’re afraid to bring to life and work your way out.
Work your way out. Be soulful. Be intentional. And always remember why you started whatever it is that you’re doing. That has to be the guide, the source, the thing that keeps you writing when no one is reading, shooting when no one cares about your pictures, praying when you can’t seem to hear from God, loving when you aren’t getting love back, and believing when all hope seems lost. Anything else is less than your best and inauthentic.
Start from the content. Work your way out.
I know I love doing both. Be well-rounded. Whatever that looks like for you. Exist in multiple realms. Have multiple interests, music tastes, favorite movies, and top genres of books. There is so much life and love out there - experience it from all the angles you can.
I know there is no blueprint. I keep having these informational interviews and reading over CVs in the hopes of finding someone who is doing exactly what I want to do and is the kind of person, scholar, researcher, human being I want to be. That of course has not happened and I shouldn’t be surprised because these dreams and plans God gave me are all mine. There is no blueprint for what I want to do and who I want to be. There’s also not yet anyone that doesn’t look at me like I’m crazy when I tell them what I have in mind. And since there’s no step by step guide to this life I’m trying to create, I’ve just got to accept that the joy and burden of it are all mine. Because, let’s be real, dreams can be heavy sometimes.
CLICK TO TWEET /// These dreams and plans God gave me are all mine. There is no blueprint for what I want to do and who I want be. -Gabrielle Hickmon
There is no blueprint. So, I just have to feel my way around. Trust in the vision that God gave me and stay disciplined + passionate enough to see it through. I am the prototype.
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