Growing into Grace is back! And I am so excited to share the nourishment provided by 7 new bloggers for the 5 Things I Know for Sure feature. These women are talking womanhood, sexuality, self-confidence and so much more in 5 quick bullet points about the lessons they have learned while growing into grace!
I first started this series in March of 2015 and the response was so great that I decided to bring it back again. I hope that you will find some stand out pieces of advice from other’s life experiences. First up is Sheriden Garrett of The Indie Byline.
Garrett is a writer and blogger that’s unafraid of exploring her thoughts out loud! In addition to running her own blog, she is also a Sex Contributor for the newly revamped xoNecole. A self-proclaimed lover and daydreamer, I thought she was just the right fit for the series! I started following her some time ago and I love her upbeat, unapologetic posts. Take a look below at the 5 things that Sheriden Garrett knows for sure!
Sheriden Garrett, The Indie Byline
1. Let Live & You’ll Learn. Everything in life is trial and error. It is very rare that you will get something right the first time around. That is why second chances exist, that is why we are given the ability to learn from our mistakes. Failure can be a great teacher, but only if you allow it to be. You can’t do the same thing the same way and expect different results. This goes with how you approach love, how you approach your work, and definitely how you approach and interact with others. Learn lessons the first time so that what’s already hard can be made a little easier.
2. I Love Me. I used to seek validation in how I felt about myself in the opinions and feelings of others. It didn’t take me long to realize that that was not the way, but it did take me a while to approach how I love myself in the same fervor and dedication that I do to those outside of me. It’s something that I have to choose to do every day, especially during days where I find it to be the hardest thing to do. When I love myself, I’m a different, better, more whole person. When I love myself, I accept bad and negative things in my space a lot less frequently. When I love myself, the quality of my relationships strengthens. It all starts with me. It began with my dad repeatedly instilling within me how beautiful I was as a small girl. In my adult years, I saw the power in that, so now I take his place and give that gift to myself daily.
3. What I Want Wants Me Back. It is a guideline I use, a lighthouse that shines a path for me whenever the waters are dark, and I am feeling defeated and weary. I’ve learned that yes, you must put in work for the things that you want in your life, but you also have to practice the art of letting go in order to allow yourself to receive those wants that are in alignment with you and your purpose. It’s a balancing act. And I never have to work my fingers down to the bone for the things in my life that are meant for me. God and the universe are working in my favor to help me to attain those things, just as long as they find me working. This is as true about my personal relationships as it is about my work. Let go and let God.
4. Female Energy is Vital to My Existence. For the majority of my life, I sought friendships outside of my gender and I deemed them to be easier and worthier of my attention and effort. I gravitated towards guys because my closeness to my father made bonding with males a lot easier than females. With a guy, I could be myself instantly. With a female, I felt that I had to test the waters for a long while before peeling back layers and presenting myself as “this is me”. My best and oldest friend is a girl, but aside from her, my close friends were all males. That changed in college however. It began with roommates who were all women. I was forced to interact with new people and foster relationships in a way that I wasn’t quite comfortable with. It changed how I viewed female friendships, especially how it related to me. Now, I have a close circle of quite a few women. I didn’t realize how much more sane and balanced I feel with strong, dope women around me, empowering me to be the best woman I can be. No one knows a woman better than a woman. My sisters and my mother are my support to the fact. We connect in our struggles, our wavelengths, our highs, and lows. It’s a love that keeps me grounded, especially when man problems are driving me up the wall. Female energy is life, literally.
5. “Life is What Happens While You’re Busy Making Other Plans” I think John Lennon was on to something when he sang this particular lyric way back when. I’ve found that I wholeheartedly believe that. You can plan and plan and plan, and life will still go forward and continue on in its free and elusive way of doing things. You can be so consumed with your well thought out plan and so fixated in how you believed things should go, that you fail to see the beauty in the picture that is unfolding before you and missing out on the fact that where you are is exactly where you are supposed to be. So it’s important to stop planning and start doing. Participate and live in the life before you. Be present. Seize the day. This year has been so eye opening for me when it comes to being present more so than planning and I’ve seen myself scratch off things that I’ve wanted to accomplish simply by letting go of the reigns and just partaking in what’s happening in my world around me. I’m enjoying it. I don’t ever want to go back to believing my life has to be pinpointed in a paint by numbers sort of fashion. No, it’s here in the now. My favorite moments have been when I let go of the idea of having a plan and have just gone with the flow, taken chances, and been bold about how I live and create. I think for that reason, that’s my new anthem.