I decided to leave these all together. This is my estimation is such a powerful statement about what love will always do. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.
I don’t know about you, but I will go to hell and back for the people that I love. Even though I’m not big as a minute, the last thing you want to do is hurt someone I am close to. I am so sensitive about how other people treat those that I love. From my significant other to my family, I am certainly a protector.
Love will protect. I will never understand how someone can claim to love you and not be willing to protect you. In protecting, you should have that person’s best interest at heart at all times. Sometimes those that protect us have to make tough decisions that we may not understand at the time. But ultimately when looking back you can see why they did. That goes for our parents, God, and sometimes friends.
A person that loves you will not leave you to the wolves to be devoured. And they will not be wolves themselves in sheep’s clothing. They won’t abuse you or misuse you or mistreat you. We have to get to a point where alarms go off when people exhibit behavior that is clearly not rooted in God’s love.
This one is a tough kicker. Even for myself. I am working really hard on being able to trust fully. Some of us are completely distrusting because of our pasts or upbringings and need a lot of work on being able to let someone in. But sometimes what I think can be even more dangerous is those of us who trust on the surface but in our minds will have doubts.
Love always trusts, because when two people are following in God’s example of love, what would there be not to trust? Yes we all make mistakes. It’s not to say that we’ll ever be perfect and never hurt someone or do something displeasing. But at the root of it, our partners, our family, our friends should be able to trust that at all times we have their best interest at heart.
And yes that’s a lot to expect from a person but what really is the other option? The fact of the matter is, that’s kind of the gamble in love. You have to trust that this person’s love for you will be a major factor in the things that they try to do. Even when I think of myself, I am sure there are things I’ve done or said that could be displeasing to my partner. But never anything that would jeopardize what I have. I expect his trust because I know that I am not doing anything to hurt him intentionally. So in return I have to be able to give him that same benefit. And it’s really hard sometimes, but the only way that this thing really works.
Hope is the evidence of our faith. When we know that God has our best interest at heart, we can hope for things both seen and unseen. That principle applies with love. Love will hope. Love will believe in the best.
Sometimes we are always expecting the worst of love. “This isn’t going to work,” “It’s only a matter of time.” But who taught you that? Not God. God has taught to hope in faith for great things. And yes we endure trials and hardships but that all is normally just God’s pruning. (John 15). That is him getting rid of the branches that don’t bear fruit so that the ones that do can prosper.
We will find love, we will lose love, we will be tested in love, but we have to count it all joy and continue to hope. God knows the desires of our heart. And he wouldn’t have stressed the importance of love if he was never going to give it to you. It’s yours but you truly have to know how to identify it and it starts with knowing and accepting His love first and foremost.
To persevere is to continue in a course of action even in the face of difficulty or with little or no prospect of success. Now don’t be fooled by the little to no prospect of success. That just means that in a world that tells you that everything is bad, that you have to know how to persevere with God at your side because he is always successful.
What I want you to focus on is “even in the face of difficulty.” Stop thinking that loving someone, really loving someone is easy. With our selfish nature, it is not. But it is possible and just the possibility is enough. We will go through things with the folks that we love. From family, to boyfriends and girlfriends, husbands and wives, to our friends. We will experience things in this life that will bring adversity in our relationships. Get that revelation first. The movies we watch and the TV shows and social media are not depictive of real life situations.
You have to see how love perseveres to believe it. You have to see couples, friends, family members come through hell and back and still be able to love one another in order to know what that love really means. Would any of us have gone to the cross for our loved ones? Well Jesus did, for us, because he loved us and that my friends is perseverance.
That’s not to say that you’ll always go through terrible things in love. But you will go through some tough times. And if you have quitter in your blood, then this love thing just may not be for you. And I am never speaking on abusive situations. That is an ultimate deal breaker. But there is so much more that you go through in love that will test your faith. But all I can say is keep God close and in the midst and prepare yourself for battle. We have to fight for the love that we want. It will not always be easy, though there are times where there is no place in the world you’d rather be than in the midst of that love.
ACTION ITEM: Write down five things that you are afraid of when it comes to loving someone. Pray over them. Face mentally the worst that can happen if those fears come to pass. Then tear up the paper and move with God’s protection over your life. He does not give us the spirit of fear, but power, love and a sound mind. (2 Timothy 1:7)