Love isn't just an emotion, it's a responsibility. - Michael S. Huggins
If you really take the time to think about it, there is so much power that you possess when someone musters up enough of their emotions to say that they love you. It’s not something that should be taken lightly, but often it is. People play games, hurt feelings and all the while don’t think about or care enough about the residual effects that their behavior will have on another person.
Both men and women have power over one another. Though different, both are extremely important. Have you ever heard someone talk about how women are men’s weakness? We’re their soft spot, so to speak. Yes men are reared to be tough and strong but there is a certain vulnerability many tap into when in love. There, in that space, women have a responsibility to handle that with care.
We have to be sure not to take advantage of that. We should be reasonable in our demands, caring and sensitive to their hardships and do our best to support them. And when we get angry we have to take special care not to bring the daggers out and attack important their manhood, hit below the belt and make bad decisions with repercussions that won’t end well for anyone.
I can definitely say that I learned I had a temper this year. I don’t think I ever really thought about it. But I can definitely say things based off emotion. Being angry is not an excuse. Words in the midst of anger linger well after the anger has dissipated. Words cannot be taken back. So it’s important to tread carefully.
Men also have responsibility. We like to kind of ignore it based on double standards but it’s true nonetheless. Men are leaders and protectors. This is not to say that women aren’t but please just live with me here. Women in a lot of ways look for men to lead and have a very similar “soft spot” for them.
Women today are so influenced by media and what they see and sometimes instead of helping women to see their true worth in the midst of all these influences, some men take that opportunity to exploit their weaknesses instead of building them up. The influence of a man in a woman’s life often begins with her father. No every woman that is bad in relationships doesn’t necessarily have daddy issues, but it’s clear that this very important relationship can affect women later down the line. It can set her up for failure or success in many instances.
Men have power. They have an opportunity to help a woman attain her full potential and impact this world and they also have the power to aid in destroying her self-worth, betraying her trust and exploiting her insecurities. Men’s actions matter. Women’s actions matter.
Overall, we can’t continue to pretend that our actions, man or woman, are solely are own and that we’re not responsible for the long term effects that it may have on another person. I guess what I am trying to say is that when someone loves you, don’t take it lightly. Do your best to keep them safe, to protect them, and to keep their faith in love. The affect can be so much larger than your temporary fulfillment. From cheating, to verbal abuse, to neglect or whatever else people screw up in relationships, take heed. Know that your actions can shape the future of that person’s life in relation to love.
Yes, we make mistakes. Yes, we hurt people. Yes we get it wrong sometimes. But be aware of your responsibility to provide the best love for that person. We’re all lacking, we all continue to have more to learn in love, but there is a great example in God of how we are responsible to treat one another, especially those that have proclaimed to love us and we in turn have said we love.