Last week a story was all abuzz about LeSean McCoy who plays for the Eagles leaving a server a 20 Cent tip at a Northern Liberties restaurant. I am not here to necessarily discuss what millionaire football players do for thrills or kicks as much as I thought it would be a great opportunity to talk about how serving for years really helped me lose some faith in humanity.
Now I cannot speak on who was right or wrong in that situation because I wasn’t there. I mean people always want to weigh in with opinions with little to zero facts about things and that’s not quite my style. But let me tell you that I am convinced that working as a server throughout college and two years after has probably scarred me for life.
I didn’t have a cushy college experience where all I had to focus on was school. I had to work. Lol. So what’s one of the fastest ways to make money in a small amount of hours without being naked and swinging around a pole? Serving. No disrespect to strippers by the way. But yes, I figured it would be an awesome way to only have to work about 4 or 5 days a week and get paid in cash every night without losing my dignity or so I thought!
What comes first the bad tip or the bad service? Well let’s just talk about a few different things here. The fact of the matter is that no matter what may be wrong with your food or your dining experience there is always a kind way to go about things and a rude way to go about the things. The easiest way for me to get these ideas out about my restaurant experience is probably a list. Here are a few things that I would consider, ponder, and/or debate, that may just make you think a little differently at a restaurant.
-I guarantee, that you will get a lot more accomplished in a restaurant by being kind. I would literally disappear from tables and not come back for a while when people were rude to me. You are the master of the fate in that area, don’t screw it up.
-Servers contrary to popular belief do not also cook the food. If you are not enjoying your food, it is not something that the server particularly did to you. You may either want to reconsider your favorite place to dine, or understand that there is a cook in the kitchen trying to get a job done and unfortunately there are casualties in every war.
-Consider where you are eating. I am sorry but you cannot come into IHOP expecting Chart House service. Like really? Your $7.99 pancakes? That server’s check average is like $25. They don’t care that much about how you feel about your quality of scrambled eggs that were poured out of a carton. Not saying that you shouldn’t expect kind service but COME ON SON!
-Servers are people. Where does that get lost? I am not now, nor have I even been, any type of tough girl. But I have honestly been disrespected in situations where I have wondered, what makes this person think that I won’t hop over this table and punch them? (Not saying I would, but I have gotten really angry at work before.) Bottom line, a $2.83 per hour job, is in no way something that will stop you from getting cussed out or harmed if you haul off and act completely disrespectful. Stop it. If you wouldn’t want someone talking to your hard working family member or loved one that way, DON’T DO IT. That’s across the board, but really people get so disrespectful in restaurants it’s ridiculous.
-Your tip can change a server’s whole night. You are in no way, shape or form responsible for the life of your server and the bills and home life they have to manage. But if you got service you appreciated, go ahead and leave a little extra. A couple extra bucks can mean everything sometimes. I’ve been there, believe me. No you shouldn’t have to suffer through bad service, but you know what, tipping is done on a scale. Impeccable=20% or more. (Yes inflation is everywhere people.) Great=18% OK = 15% or less. I had the absolute WORST service at a Waffle House just the other day, but what would it grant me to completely snub our horrible waitress? NOTHING really. I’m going to go on about my life, but that’s going to stick to her, badly and chip away at the little bit of faith in humanity we talked about earlier.
It’s your money, do what you want with it. But if you are dissatisfied, let someone know. Talk to a manager, don’t completely discredit the work that someone tried to do for you even if they didn’t do a great job. Again, there is a scale. Use it. But tipping is a part of the dining experience, if you don’t want to do it, say your miserable booty at home.
Clearly I am sensitive about the subject and I will never be able to dine the same after working in a restaurant, but at the END of the day, don’t be a jack butt. It won’t look good on you.
Have you ever served? Have you ever had an awful dining experience? Tell me about it. How did you handle it?