Our comfort zone is probably one of the most dangerous places to reside. Yet, so many of us get set in our ways and crippled by what makes us “comfortable.” But recently I have noticed that each time I venture out of my comfort zone, I am pleasantly surprised.
It’s not always about emerging yourself in completely different territory, but your comfort zone can incorporate a lot of different things. I mean something as simple as I was going to shade out an invite from someone to an event because I wasn’t going to know anyone there. But I pushed passed that initial feeling and had a great time.
What happens to us? I remember the days right after college when I would go anywhere and do anything. Didn’t matter if I knew someone or not. All that mattered was that I saw the end result of where I was trying to get to and I didn’t worry myself too much with the steps it would take to get there. Now at 28, I am often second guessing myself and fighting against my own apprehensions.
From learning a new skill to trying new restaurants or engaging in new experiences, I am working to shatter this thing called complacency which feels like where vibrant souls go to die. Yet somehow many of us find ourselves in a comfort zone. I think it’s just a natural progression, but it’s the steps that you take after you realize it that will make all the difference.
Fear, I have heard people say is like this unconfirmed apprehension about what could possibly happen and not often based in certainty. We pull away from what’s unknown. But it’s like coming up against a dragon that has no flame or a big scary dog with no teeth. You will be so disappointed if you let that stand in the way of where you were trying to go.
What have I done to help get past those moments? Anytime I am apprehensive about something and I notice I don’t really have a good reason, I just have to do it. There is no other way to get around it. If in my head everything sounds like an excuse instead of an intuition or simply a smarter decision, I have to push through it. Whether it’s making a phone call, or sending an email, or going to an event. I won’t be the person who allows that type of silliness to get in the way of the things I am working to achieve.
And the craziest part about it is, it’s never quite as bad as you think it’s going to be. I end up thriving most times out of my comfort zone and wondering what took me so long to just take the shot. I remember when I was young I wouldn’t even ask my parents things if I thought the answer might be no. I refuse to be that adult. I’m asking, I am putting myself out there, and I am expanding the boundaries of my comfort zone each and every day.
What are some of the things you’ve been apprehensive about that you would like to overcome? Don’t be bashful, leave it in the comments!