As a part of the Growing Into Grace series, I decided to give you all some pearls of wisdom from some of my favorite bloggers as well! Oprah recently released her book, "What I Know For Sure" and I think it's so fitting for this month's focus on the life lessons I've collected as I grow into the woman I want to become. So over the next few weeks, you will hear from an awesome lineup of women about five things they know for sure!
First up is Morgan Ariel Pitts who dubs herself a Creator-in-Chief! She is the creator of the popular hashtag and social movement #blackgirlswhoblog. It started from a tweet and well the rest is history with so many black girl bloggers catching on and hashtagging their posts to share in community with other women. Once I happened upon it, I thought it was such an awesome idea and I adore the shirts and sweatshirts adorned with the popular phrase as well!
Take a look at what Morgan had to say about the things that she knows for sure!
Morgan Ariel Pitts, #BlackGirlsWhoBlog and CosMORGpoliton
1. I know that some of the best things in life happen unexpectedly and wouldn't have turned out as well if you tried to plan them yourself -- #BlackGirlsWhoBlog started off as a random tweet that I initially had no intention of growing into anything more. Today, I can honestly say that it's one of the most fulfilling things that I've ever done. I even won a Black Weblog Award for it. And guess what? It wasn't in "my plan."
2. I know that being a good person pays off -- So many relationships that I've established (as well as maintained) and opportunities that I've been granted have stemmed from me genuinely being a decent human being (so I've been told). Sure, talent and skill are important. They may get your foot in the door, but being an asset to humanity keeps it there. Be kind. Be patient. Pay your dues. Do your best ...and all that jazz. (Disclaimer: don't just be a good person because you want to reap the benefits, but rather be one because it's the right thing to do ...like Spike Lee). There's a difference between "good" and "well-behaved." Additionally, it's always better to support what you love instead of bashing what you hate. Negatively speaking about something that you do not particularly care for is still free promo; however, celebrating what you do indeed enjoy is a win-win situation.
3. I know that mother knows best -- Nine times out of ten, your mom really is always right ...except for that one time, and, in the words of Kanye, "that's what intuition is."
4. I know that growth is on the other side of fear and outside of your comfort zone -- I moved to New York City a few months ago all by myself. I was terrified, but my excitement to get my professional career rolling and desire to gain more independence from my suburban-sweetheart lifestyle, I knew it had to be done. The last time that I left The Big Apple before moving, I was so scared (and absolutely refused) to take the Subway alone. Now, I take it practically every single day of my life to get where I need (and want) to go. My loved ones tell me that they're so proud of me, but honestly, no one is more proud than myself.
Side note, I also know that rejection is God's protection, and "no" might very well be His way of saying, "I have something better for you." I was so fed up with graduating from college and not having a job for a year and a half that I said I'd finally give in and apply to work retail back home (Washington, D.C. Metropolitan Area) at a Kate Spade store. I really enjoyed the brand and figured it'd be some extra change in my pocket and work experience if nothing else. Heck, even my current phone case is Kate Spade, but they didn't want me. I didn't even get a callback to work a freakin' retail job, and I hold a Bachelor of Science degree in Marketing. About a month later, I landed a gig at Gucci Corporate ...not the store, but corporate. I had been praying for a while to get both my career off the ground and become more independent from my super loving, caring and supportive family ... and well, won't He do it? Eat your heart out, Kate Spade.
5. I know that treating yourself makes the world go round -- Buy yourself those flowers. Treat yourself to that gelato. Take yourself on a date to the new museum exhibit. It will help keep those happiness levels where they ought to be. Just trust me on this one.